Comments on: 4 Powerful Ways to Regain Self-Confidence Despite Challenges http://www.annettecolby.com/blog/2008/10/26/4-powerful-ways-to-regain-self-confidence-despite-challenges/ Discover the Joy in You Wed, 08 Feb 2012 21:10:31 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8 hourly 1 By: Ana http://www.annettecolby.com/blog/2008/10/26/4-powerful-ways-to-regain-self-confidence-despite-challenges/comment-page-1/#comment-3287 Ana Fri, 25 Nov 2011 22:08:24 +0000 http://annettecolby.com/blog/?p=141#comment-3287 I would like to know Why is always ME, no matter how hard I have been trying-- it's always ME. I'm always loser and victim, somebody else is always Winner. It is devastating to know this, but choices are not my possibilities. And its going on and on and on... I'm living in accordance with God, fully... Maybe this is my mistake; after all of my failures... I started to have bad dreams : In my dreams I'm killer who always killing people who directly had influenced my calamities. I'm so devastated , thinking of suicide as the only way to escape my question: Why it's ME again and again, no matter how hard I"m trying I would like to know Why is always ME, no matter how hard I have been trying– it’s always ME. I’m always loser and victim,
somebody else is always Winner. It is devastating to know this, but choices are not my possibilities. And its going on and on and on… I’m living in accordance with God, fully… Maybe this is my mistake; after all of my failures… I started to have bad dreams : In my dreams I’m killer who always killing people who directly had influenced my calamities. I’m so devastated , thinking of suicide as the only way to escape my question: Why it’s ME again and again, no matter how hard I”m trying

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]]> By: Dr. Annette http://www.annettecolby.com/blog/2008/10/26/4-powerful-ways-to-regain-self-confidence-despite-challenges/comment-page-1/#comment-378 Dr. Annette Sun, 28 Dec 2008 19:01:58 +0000 http://annettecolby.com/blog/?p=141#comment-378 Dear Maryann, Thank you for taking the time to leave your comments on our Divine Self! blog. I’m excited to have this opportunity to get to know you and I know many other people can relate to the difficult life experiences you describe. I’ve read your email several times, and I wanted to wish you an ability to breathe and love yourself for who you are. Like many others, you have had many difficult life experiences over the past 26 years. For you, it’s included nine interviews, alienation from your closest friends, a difficult divorce, and losing custody of your four girls. Of course you feel stressed and devastated at times. But despite it all, Maryann, you are still participating in your life. You are discovering who you are beyond the stress and crisis and mishap. Having confidence doesn’t mean that you ace your every interview or live a perfect life. Gaining confidence involves seeing how your actions and choices affect your life, giving yourself heartfelt credit for showing up, and making new decisions about how you want to live today. Personally, I also have trouble being sharp and clear in interview situations. I tend to turn down radio interviews because of my inhibitions. But, that doesn’t mean I don’t live a confident life. It just means that as of today, I’m not yet so good at interviews. You on the other hand, are deciding to go for the interviews, to give them your best shot, and to try again even when one doesn’t work out so well. That is exactly where confidence is born. I say congratulations to you! Maryann, I believe in you. Look beyond the stress, beyond the acting out with your “horrid behavior” and you will find yourself. There is so much more to you than stress and chaos. And there is so much more that life is willing to offer you. As you offer love to yourself, more love will show up for you. Breathe and follow the choices that bring joy (even when another part of you would rather choose shutting down, acting out behaviors, or self-criticism). I'd like to hear more about your ability to "make connections on seemingly unrelated things." That sounds like quite a tremendous gift. Care to share more with us? Sending you much love, Annette Dear Maryann,

Thank you for taking the time to leave your comments on our Divine Self! blog. I’m excited to have this opportunity to get to know you and I know many other people can relate to the difficult life experiences you describe.

I’ve read your email several times, and I wanted to wish you an ability to breathe and love yourself for who you are. Like many others, you have had many difficult life experiences over the past 26 years. For you, it’s included nine interviews, alienation from your closest friends, a difficult divorce, and losing custody of your four girls. Of course you feel stressed and devastated at times.

But despite it all, Maryann, you are still participating in your life. You are discovering who you are beyond the stress and crisis and mishap. Having confidence doesn’t mean that you ace your every interview or live a perfect life. Gaining confidence involves seeing how your actions and choices affect your life, giving yourself heartfelt credit for showing up, and making new decisions about how you want to live today.

Personally, I also have trouble being sharp and clear in interview situations. I tend to turn down radio interviews because of my inhibitions. But, that doesn’t mean I don’t live a confident life. It just means that as of today, I’m not yet so good at interviews. You on the other hand, are deciding to go for the interviews, to give them your best shot, and to try again even when one doesn’t work out so well. That is exactly where confidence is born. I say congratulations to you!

Maryann, I believe in you. Look beyond the stress, beyond the acting out with your “horrid behavior” and you will find yourself. There is so much more to you than stress and chaos. And there is so much more that life is willing to offer you. As you offer love to yourself, more love will show up for you. Breathe and follow the choices that bring joy (even when another part of you would rather choose shutting down, acting out behaviors, or self-criticism).

I’d like to hear more about your ability to “make connections on seemingly unrelated things.” That sounds like quite a tremendous gift. Care to share more with us?

Sending you much love,
Annette

]]> By: Maryann Owens http://www.annettecolby.com/blog/2008/10/26/4-powerful-ways-to-regain-self-confidence-despite-challenges/comment-page-1/#comment-377 Maryann Owens Thu, 25 Dec 2008 20:29:53 +0000 http://annettecolby.com/blog/?p=141#comment-377 I am so stressed, for what I think is about my 8th or 9th State job interview (since 2006) coming Mon. Dec. 29, 2008, that I canceled going to Ma's for Christmas dinner. I have alienated my boyfriend, his son and girlfriend, with my horrid behaviour! I didn't do as well as I wanted on my interview 12-22-08; and now am for-tunate to get another interview with the same group for a different position on the 29th. I worked a year in 1982 w/the one in charge, but after an awful divorce w/my x getting custody of our 4 girls, due to lies, I feel devastated. I have trouble being sharp and clear and being able to do well in a 'behavioral based' interview, even though I am well above the average in my ability and pre-married worklife. I can't seem to spontaneously give precise situations, actions, and results to several job competencies the way I feel I should, or I'd have the job. Your 'at ease' and 'be open' are good advice. One of my strong points is supposed to be, 'making connections' on seemingly unrelated things. . .yet, I don't do well enough in interviews. I am so stressed, for what I think is about my 8th or 9th State job interview (since 2006) coming Mon. Dec. 29, 2008, that I canceled going to Ma’s for Christmas dinner. I have alienated my boyfriend, his son and girlfriend, with my horrid behaviour! I didn’t do as well as I wanted on my interview 12-22-08; and now am for-tunate to get another interview with the same group for a different position on the 29th. I worked a year in 1982 w/the one in charge, but after an awful divorce w/my x getting custody of our 4 girls, due to lies, I feel devastated. I have trouble being sharp and clear and being able to do well in a ‘behavioral based’ interview, even though I am well above the average in my ability and pre-married worklife. I can’t seem to spontaneously give precise situations, actions, and results to several job competencies the way I feel I should, or I’d have the job. Your ‘at ease’ and ‘be open’ are good advice. One of my strong points is supposed to be, ‘making connections’ on seemingly unrelated things. . .yet, I don’t do well enough in interviews.

]]> By: Dr. Annette http://www.annettecolby.com/blog/2008/10/26/4-powerful-ways-to-regain-self-confidence-despite-challenges/comment-page-1/#comment-292 Dr. Annette Mon, 27 Oct 2008 15:18:35 +0000 http://annettecolby.com/blog/?p=141#comment-292 Hello Pam, You wrote, "I already have everything I need to achieve success!" Wow. Thanks for writing this so clearly. I read your words and they go directly into the core of my being. Thanks for sharing your wisdom. With joy, Annette Hello Pam,

You wrote, “I already have everything I need to achieve success!” Wow. Thanks for writing this so clearly. I read your words and they go directly into the core of my being. Thanks for sharing your wisdom.

With joy,
Annette

]]> By: Pam http://www.annettecolby.com/blog/2008/10/26/4-powerful-ways-to-regain-self-confidence-despite-challenges/comment-page-1/#comment-291 Pam Sun, 26 Oct 2008 23:29:06 +0000 http://annettecolby.com/blog/?p=141#comment-291 Excellent article! It is so true... we must take time to make time. Thanks for reminding me that I already have everything I need to achieve success! I feel much better now... Excellent article! It is so true… we must take time to make time. Thanks for reminding me that I already have everything I need to achieve success! I feel much better now…

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