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		<title>By: Dr. Annette</title>
		<link>http://www.annettecolby.com/blog/2009/07/22/reflections-on-depression-people-talk-about-depression/comment-page-1/#comment-2213</link>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Annette</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 12 Jan 2011 18:42:37 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Annika,
It&#039;s a lot to attempt to accept our own depression as a valid and significant human experience, let alone trying to get the people around us to understand. Often, those who care about us feel somewhat helpless or ineffective because nothing they do seems to help. 

In addition to struggling with not knowing how to help you through your experience, the depression affects the relationship that you once had with those closest to you. Gone is their easy going, light-hearted friend, sister, spouse, or daughter. They want things back to the way they once were.

Take a breath and find the perspective that this is your experience and one that you must find your way through. Those friends and family closest to you must, by necessity, sometimes sit on the backburner while you navigate your journey.

Call on those loved ones when you need them most and also rely on your own inner wisdom to know when time alone is needed. 

My perspective is that depression is an important process of letting go of old beliefs and perceptions and emerging into the world with new inner truths and wisdom. Do what you can to keep the process moving forward. Your feelings of not understanding why you are depressed and your feelings of guilt are understandable and typical. What you may not see yet until well after you have emerged from your depression is the importance your experience held in terms of liberation and sorting out your authentic self from outgrown beliefs.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Annika,<br />
It&#8217;s a lot to attempt to accept our own depression as a valid and significant human experience, let alone trying to get the people around us to understand. Often, those who care about us feel somewhat helpless or ineffective because nothing they do seems to help. </p>
<p>In addition to struggling with not knowing how to help you through your experience, the depression affects the relationship that you once had with those closest to you. Gone is their easy going, light-hearted friend, sister, spouse, or daughter. They want things back to the way they once were.</p>
<p>Take a breath and find the perspective that this is your experience and one that you must find your way through. Those friends and family closest to you must, by necessity, sometimes sit on the backburner while you navigate your journey.</p>
<p>Call on those loved ones when you need them most and also rely on your own inner wisdom to know when time alone is needed. </p>
<p>My perspective is that depression is an important process of letting go of old beliefs and perceptions and emerging into the world with new inner truths and wisdom. Do what you can to keep the process moving forward. Your feelings of not understanding why you are depressed and your feelings of guilt are understandable and typical. What you may not see yet until well after you have emerged from your depression is the importance your experience held in terms of liberation and sorting out your authentic self from outgrown beliefs.</p>
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		<title>By: Annika</title>
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		<dc:creator>Annika</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 12 Jan 2011 08:56:26 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Dr. Annette, fantastic selection of quotes. The writing of others has helped me verbalize and understand my own depression a lot. I read Darkness Visible recently and was revelatory, a very liberating experience even, and helped me start to accept my depression like nothing else did. It&#039;s been such a long struggle and I&#039;ve been lapsing back into it again. I thought I&#039;d already hit rock bottom, so to speak, but apparently not. It&#039;s a horrific, all-consuming feeling. So many seem to try and make it out to be a weakness of will or character. Perhaps to some extent, but realizing how many people who I admire that it&#039;s afflicted (Styron, Lincoln, Goethe, Camus and so many others), it&#039;s easier to admit to. Still, the people around me don&#039;t seem to understand how this could afflict me despite me being so young/intelligent/attractive/having everything going for me. I suppose those are advantages, really, but it all just makes me feel all the more guilty for squandering that during my time here on Earth.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dr. Annette, fantastic selection of quotes. The writing of others has helped me verbalize and understand my own depression a lot. I read Darkness Visible recently and was revelatory, a very liberating experience even, and helped me start to accept my depression like nothing else did. It&#8217;s been such a long struggle and I&#8217;ve been lapsing back into it again. I thought I&#8217;d already hit rock bottom, so to speak, but apparently not. It&#8217;s a horrific, all-consuming feeling. So many seem to try and make it out to be a weakness of will or character. Perhaps to some extent, but realizing how many people who I admire that it&#8217;s afflicted (Styron, Lincoln, Goethe, Camus and so many others), it&#8217;s easier to admit to. Still, the people around me don&#8217;t seem to understand how this could afflict me despite me being so young/intelligent/attractive/having everything going for me. I suppose those are advantages, really, but it all just makes me feel all the more guilty for squandering that during my time here on Earth.</p>
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		<title>By: Dr. Annette</title>
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		<dc:creator>Dr. Annette</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 24 Jul 2009 18:20:59 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Dear Positively Present Dani,

As I run across more personal, candid accounts of depression, I will add them to this article. If you, or anyone reading this journal entry, had a quote to add, please offer it in the comments section or email it to me and I will place it in the body of the main article. 

Also, I ready your biography on http://positivelypresent.typepad.com/about.html and salute you for taking your own joy and evolotion into your own hands. One of my favorite expressions is that it is &quot;never too late to live a happy childhood.&quot; And it&#039;s never to late to create a fulfilling today.

Sending best wishes and joy,
Annette</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dear Positively Present Dani,</p>
<p>As I run across more personal, candid accounts of depression, I will add them to this article. If you, or anyone reading this journal entry, had a quote to add, please offer it in the comments section or email it to me and I will place it in the body of the main article. </p>
<p>Also, I ready your biography on <a href="http://positivelypresent.typepad.com/about.html" rel="nofollow">http://positivelypresent.typepad.com/about.html</a> and salute you for taking your own joy and evolotion into your own hands. One of my favorite expressions is that it is &#8220;never too late to live a happy childhood.&#8221; And it&#8217;s never to late to create a fulfilling today.</p>
<p>Sending best wishes and joy,<br />
Annette</p>
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		<title>By: Dr. Annette</title>
		<link>http://www.annettecolby.com/blog/2009/07/22/reflections-on-depression-people-talk-about-depression/comment-page-1/#comment-784</link>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Annette</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 24 Jul 2009 18:16:19 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Dear Marsha,

How brave you are to endure the descents into your own bouts of spiritual depression. You met your demons face-to-face and brought them back into the light of your divine self. My heart is filled with love for you and with you.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dear Marsha,</p>
<p>How brave you are to endure the descents into your own bouts of spiritual depression. You met your demons face-to-face and brought them back into the light of your divine self. My heart is filled with love for you and with you.</p>
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		<title>By: Dr. Annette</title>
		<link>http://www.annettecolby.com/blog/2009/07/22/reflections-on-depression-people-talk-about-depression/comment-page-1/#comment-783</link>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Annette</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 24 Jul 2009 18:12:02 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Dearest Kathleen,

Thank you for sharing your heartfelt review of William Styron&#039;s book &quot;Darkness Visible.&quot; http://www.amazon.com/Darkness-Visible-Madness-William-Styron/dp/0679736395

for anyone lost in their own dark night of the soul, Styron&#039;s account can be like a security blanket when there is very little else to hold on to.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dearest Kathleen,</p>
<p>Thank you for sharing your heartfelt review of William Styron&#8217;s book &#8220;Darkness Visible.&#8221; <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Darkness-Visible-Madness-William-Styron/dp/0679736395" rel="nofollow">http://www.amazon.com/Darkness-Visible-Madness-William-Styron/dp/0679736395</a></p>
<p>for anyone lost in their own dark night of the soul, Styron&#8217;s account can be like a security blanket when there is very little else to hold on to.</p>
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		<title>By: Dr. Annette</title>
		<link>http://www.annettecolby.com/blog/2009/07/22/reflections-on-depression-people-talk-about-depression/comment-page-1/#comment-782</link>
		<dc:creator>Dr. Annette</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 24 Jul 2009 18:07:39 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Dear Mary Ann,

Thank you for sharing your insights on depression. You offer great support to those dealing with clinical depression. I have empathy for the challenges you have faced in your lifetime,  respect for your courage to move forward with integrity, and love for your willingness to extend a helping hand to others who are suffering as you have.

I would like to add a broader perspective that depression can come in various forms ranging from situational depression resulting from a response to a stressful event to a severe psychological condition like manic-depressive illness. Some causes have to do with physiology, internal chemical imbalance, or genetics. While other types of depression stem from engaging in low energy life choices, such as drug or alcohol abuse. Different types of depression benefit from differing modalities of management, including pharmaceutical treatment. 

In this blog Divine Self! I speak openly about spiritual depression. Spiritual depression is not a disease and therefore there is no cure. It is a journey, a torturous journey, when we go beyond the old definitions of who we thought ourselves to be. Yet this is the experience of our changing consciousness. It is the unraveling, the coming apart of our old belief structures and definitions of God, Life, and Self. 

During spiritual depression parts of you are not knowing what is happening. Can you survive? Do you even want to? How difficult and how deep do things have to become before something new kicks in? It’s a complex transition period to go through. It’s not easy. The journey itself is a self-earned rite of passage to reclaim your sovereignty. To take back the authority and self-reliance you have given to others. 

Thank you Mary Ann for adding to the depth of our discussion on depression and offering your perspectives. I wish you blessings and love, Annette</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dear Mary Ann,</p>
<p>Thank you for sharing your insights on depression. You offer great support to those dealing with clinical depression. I have empathy for the challenges you have faced in your lifetime,  respect for your courage to move forward with integrity, and love for your willingness to extend a helping hand to others who are suffering as you have.</p>
<p>I would like to add a broader perspective that depression can come in various forms ranging from situational depression resulting from a response to a stressful event to a severe psychological condition like manic-depressive illness. Some causes have to do with physiology, internal chemical imbalance, or genetics. While other types of depression stem from engaging in low energy life choices, such as drug or alcohol abuse. Different types of depression benefit from differing modalities of management, including pharmaceutical treatment. </p>
<p>In this blog Divine Self! I speak openly about spiritual depression. Spiritual depression is not a disease and therefore there is no cure. It is a journey, a torturous journey, when we go beyond the old definitions of who we thought ourselves to be. Yet this is the experience of our changing consciousness. It is the unraveling, the coming apart of our old belief structures and definitions of God, Life, and Self. </p>
<p>During spiritual depression parts of you are not knowing what is happening. Can you survive? Do you even want to? How difficult and how deep do things have to become before something new kicks in? It’s a complex transition period to go through. It’s not easy. The journey itself is a self-earned rite of passage to reclaim your sovereignty. To take back the authority and self-reliance you have given to others. </p>
<p>Thank you Mary Ann for adding to the depth of our discussion on depression and offering your perspectives. I wish you blessings and love, Annette</p>
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		<title>By: Kathleen</title>
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		<dc:creator>Kathleen</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 23 Jul 2009 14:01:35 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I have a copy of William Styron&#039;s book &quot;Darkness Visible.....A Memoir of Madness&quot; and have read it several times. He gives a clear insight of what a manic depressive&#039;s life is actually like......very enlightening!

&quot;We are moved yet not depressed by his account: with him, we feel uplifted by a sense of catharis and can at last begin to fathom depression&#039;s dark reality.&quot; ___Edward Morris

I could not express how I felt any better then Edwar Morris.

William Styron also wrote &quot;Sophie&#039;s Choice&quot; which I also enjoyed.......made into a movie......wonderful.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I have a copy of William Styron&#8217;s book &#8220;Darkness Visible&#8230;..A Memoir of Madness&#8221; and have read it several times. He gives a clear insight of what a manic depressive&#8217;s life is actually like&#8230;&#8230;very enlightening!</p>
<p>&#8220;We are moved yet not depressed by his account: with him, we feel uplifted by a sense of catharis and can at last begin to fathom depression&#8217;s dark reality.&#8221; ___Edward Morris</p>
<p>I could not express how I felt any better then Edwar Morris.</p>
<p>William Styron also wrote &#8220;Sophie&#8217;s Choice&#8221; which I also enjoyed&#8230;&#8230;.made into a movie&#8230;&#8230;wonderful.</p>
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		<title>By: Mary Ann Farley</title>
		<link>http://www.annettecolby.com/blog/2009/07/22/reflections-on-depression-people-talk-about-depression/comment-page-1/#comment-776</link>
		<dc:creator>Mary Ann Farley</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 22 Jul 2009 23:40:54 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>While working as a medical editor a few years ago, I was lucky enough to read tons of materials about depression.

What so few people understand, even to this day, is that depression is a MEDICAL DISEASE, not a crisis of the soul (although it can feel that way). In the same way Type II diabetics cannot absorb their own insulin, a clinically depressed person cannot absorb the seratonin created by their own brain. This disease can be FATAL.

I wrote a piece about it all on Open Salon in April. I really hope I can spread some factual info about this most misunderstood illness.

http://www.open.salon.com/blog/mary_ann_farley/2009/04/21/understanding_suicide

Mary Ann Farley</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>While working as a medical editor a few years ago, I was lucky enough to read tons of materials about depression.</p>
<p>What so few people understand, even to this day, is that depression is a MEDICAL DISEASE, not a crisis of the soul (although it can feel that way). In the same way Type II diabetics cannot absorb their own insulin, a clinically depressed person cannot absorb the seratonin created by their own brain. This disease can be FATAL.</p>
<p>I wrote a piece about it all on Open Salon in April. I really hope I can spread some factual info about this most misunderstood illness.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.open.salon.com/blog/mary_ann_farley/2009/04/21/understanding_suicide" rel="nofollow">http://www.open.salon.com/blog/mary_ann_farley/2009/04/21/understanding_suicide</a></p>
<p>Mary Ann Farley</p>
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		<title>By: marsha</title>
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		<dc:creator>marsha</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 22 Jul 2009 19:35:58 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Wow! That was my first thought, too! One thing that I realized while reading them is that the experience of depression is just as univeral as it is personal and unique. It is only when we are on the other side that we realize there IS a light at the end of that tunnel, and it&#039;s NOT the light of an oncoming train! As difficult as they were at the time, I would not trade my bouts with depression over the years, for it was through those parts of my journey that I made tremendous growth...just like a caterpillar in its cocoon.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Wow! That was my first thought, too! One thing that I realized while reading them is that the experience of depression is just as univeral as it is personal and unique. It is only when we are on the other side that we realize there IS a light at the end of that tunnel, and it&#8217;s NOT the light of an oncoming train! As difficult as they were at the time, I would not trade my bouts with depression over the years, for it was through those parts of my journey that I made tremendous growth&#8230;just like a caterpillar in its cocoon.</p>
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		<dc:creator>Positively Present</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 22 Jul 2009 19:01:11 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>WOW. These quotes are amazing! Thanks so much for sharing them here. They are GREAT.
.-= Positively Present&#180;s last blog ..&lt;a href=&quot;http://www.positivelypresent.com/2009/07/thepositivepowerofmusic.html&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;the positive power of music&lt;/a&gt; =-.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>WOW. These quotes are amazing! Thanks so much for sharing them here. They are GREAT.<br />
<span class="cluv"> Positively Present&#180;s last blog ..<a href="http://www.positivelypresent.com/2009/07/thepositivepowerofmusic.html" rel="nofollow">the positive power of music</a> <span class="heart_tip_box"><img class="heart_tip" alt="My ComLuv Profile" border="0" width="16" height="14" src="http://www.annettecolby.com/blog/wp-content/plugins/commentluv/images/littleheart.gif"/></span></span></p>
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